Dear Sugar (An Excerpt)

An excerpt from Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar.  A no bullshit, forward, authentic, great book from 2012 written by Cheryl Strayed who was first introduced as an anonymous advice columnist in 2010 known only as “Dear Sugar”.

Your assumptions about the lives of others are in direct relation to your naïve pomposity. Many people you believe to be rich are not rich. Many people you think have it easy worked hard for what they got. Many people who seem to be gliding right along have suffered and are suffering. Many people who appear to you to be old and stupidly saddled down with kids and cars and houses were once every bit as hip and pompous as you.

 When you meet a man in the doorway of a Mexican restaurant who later kisses you while explaining that this kiss doesn’t ‘mean anything’ because, much as he likes you, he is not interested in having a relationship with you or anyone right now, just laugh and kiss him back. Your daughter will have his sense of humor. Your son will have his eyes.

 The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave under your arms or not. These things are your becoming.

 One Christmas at the very beginning of your twenties when your mother gives you a warm coat that she saved for months to buy, don’t look at her skeptically after she tells you she thought the coat was perfect for you. Don’t hold it up and say it’s longer than you like your coats to be and too puffy and possibly even too warm. Your mother will be dead by spring. That coat will be the last gift she gave you. You will regret the small thing you didn’t say for the rest of your life. Say thank you.

dear sugar

Comments

  1. says

    One of my favorite books – I gave this as a gift to several friends this holiday season. Cheryl Strayed (Dear Sugar) is an incredibly wise soul and gifted writer. I recommend her to everyone!

  2. says

    I don’t have this book! Why don’t I have this book?

    I absolutely love Cheryl Strayed. I actually chose my pen name based on her story in WIld, about how she adopted Strayed after her divorce.

    That line above …The useless days will add up to something … God, she has a way of saying just what I’m thinking or feeling or imagining.

    Thanks for sharing this. I’m inspired. Does it show?
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