I Wish You Enough

I have this love/hate relationship with quotes and sayings all over the place – unless I like them and  then, well, it’s great of course.

But how bout those super queer emails you get that say something super flowery and time-wasty like and then at the bottom they chain you…. ( this is the real reason it’s called a chain email)

“Send this message to 11 friends and something miraculous will happen…….DON’T break this thread!”

UGH.  Please. I love that you are my friend … but if you really consider me one of yours and want to stay one of mine –  please, do me a favor and DON’T.  Just don’t. Ever. ESPECIALLY if it has a TOTALLY QUEER aesthetic or graphic with it, like, say,  a cudley wudley kitten.


This lil’ guy is sooo cute!! omg! look at his tummy!

If you send these out… or participate in them… you need to stop it. now.

Then, there are those times when I am stalking browsing around on facebook and I see a kind of interesting or poignant graphic but it has all these shares and comments so it peaks my curiosity and I hover my mouse over it for a moment and I think to myself:


but it’s too late…

so I click on it?

and then I’m all thinking ….

“ooooh, this is .. hmmm… oh, god, that’s, oh, this is… so sad…. “

and then I’m all….

*sniff.  *sniff *sniff…. sniff sniff sniff  (getting  closer now) sniff, eyes welling, sniff sniff sniff sniff…. WHHHHAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!

and then I’m a balling sobbing hot mess with snot all down my face and feeling like I got sucker punched by that cute, cudley wudley kitten.

Here it is:

wish you enough


I Wish You Enough:

Recently, I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport as the daughter’s departure had been announced. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said:

“I love you and I wish you enough.”

The daughter replied, “Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom.” They kissed and the daughter left.

The mother walked over to the window where I sat. Standing there, I could see she wanted and needed to cry.

I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?” “Yes, I have,” I replied. “Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever good-bye?”

“I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is the next trip back will be for my funeral,” she said.

When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, “I wish you enough.” May I ask what that means?”

She began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more.

“When we said ‘I wish you enough’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them”. Then turning toward me, she shared the following, reciting it from memory,

“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

 I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.”

She then began to cry and walked away.


They say it takes a minute to find a special person. An hour to appreciate them. A day to love them. And an entire life to forget them. Please Share this with your friends. It has the potential to inspire a lot of people.

GRRRRRRR. *sniff. GRRRRRRR. *sniff, *sniff, *muffled sob…

Go ahead, share it.

I double dog dare you.


  1. says

    I wish you enough Monica. I get why this struck a chord… it is what we are all wanting, isn’t it? We just loose our way with what “enough” is for ourselves and loved ones and humanity as a whole. How to love one another well, how to repair the disconnect from one human being to another… Just to imagine if we all hold that wish, with intention for every person that crosses our daily path… then we get to be reminded what it is to practice what is enough in our own lives and embrace it. It’s that inside out thing we talk about in relation to The Revelation Project and our personal journeys. Thank you for this “queer, corny, quote!” I’m glad you dared. xoxo

    • says

      Thanks so much for your additional thoughts on this- so true- if we could offer “enough” to ourselves and to others through intention each day.. we are reminded of what it is and what it looks like. Love that. XOXOXOXOM