We’ve got a pretty major TRP season booked. Today was a blast. Thank you to everyone who has made this project what it is. I am so so grateful for every single day I get to be here. XO
If you know anyone who would like to book, season three is officially open. It’s already been amazing ;)
It’s Five O’Clock in the afternoon. It’s October 26th 2012, This is not the day I was physically born into the world but rather metaphysically.
When do we really start to LIVE? Is it when we first inhale breath into our tender newborn lungs or is it when instead we unlearn all we’ve learned about how it’s suposed to feel, look, and be, and really start to OWN our own lives?
This morning I was photographed for the project, and I have been having so many emotions and feelings and thoughts coursing through my body and mind ever since…
At this moment, I am present to how amazing the process is, and how valuable. As I mentioned in my last post- each member of our TRP team has each taken a turn this past month going through the project again from the from the start to really examine, explore, and redefine what we are asking of each of our participants.
Today, one aspect that hit me is that we are asking them to re-birth themselves into a new world of possibility. The possibility of seeing themselves differently, and the possibility of living big- in a way that empowers them.
We are proposing that anything is possible when you are open to transformation.
Being witnessed is a powerful experience- it’s like a drug…. but even more powerful is the realization that as women – we walk among thousands who are ready, able and willing to co-create a new way of looking at themselves and at the world. In taking a look- is where I believe we start to become informed about where our inner selves are hiding out, or selling out, or giving up.
Are we living a life of resignation? ( This is just the way it is….) or are we living a life that makes our breath catch and our hearts soar, and our minds expand?
For me; the project is a catalyst for both my own interior self exploration as well as my impact on the world and those who surround me. Are those two persona’s congruent? aligned? When I un-peel the layers and look within myself do my constructs of who I think I think I am really hold up? Am I willing to revisit what I think I know and let go of idea’s and ways of being that no longer serve me?
We are AMAZING creatures; we women. 
If we are very lucky we take the opportunity to give birth to ourselves in this lifetime…. we labor sometimes for years and years to finally deliver- and when we can in fact look at the world with new eyes… it can be the most amazing and wondrous life we’d always desired and imagined.
The questions of
who are we really?
What are we here for? What’s the/our Purpose?
starts to become clear….
And all of the things that we once thought life might be about vanish like:
Getting it right ( nope!)
Arriving (eh)
Being the best at… ( the best? …)
Being the most beautiful, skilled or wealthy… ( all things fade away)
Finding perfect love… ( perfect only in imperfection)
Finding perfect anything….
Knowing it all…. ( tried this… it’s so lame)
Finally getting acknowledged…. ( been here too… )
Being right ( Still struggle with this one! )
Being comfortable
Getting Health Insurance
Today I participated in TRP after watching from the other side for nearly two years, and I took everything I have learned into the experience and put it in front of the lens of what I thought I knew, and took another look. I took a LOOK into who I am and what connects me to all of you. As I look in wonder at my own self- so too do I look in wonder at all of you… and assume the willingness to drop my judgement, my ignorance, my security, my viewpoint, my stance.
Today- I am fresh, and new, and sparkling…. and even if it last for a year, a month, a week, a day, an hour… it is SUCH a gift.
My name is Monica. Today is October 25th, 2012, and I have been born into a world of possibility, and the world looks like a pretty amazing, mysterious and magical place.
THIS is what The Revelation Project IS, and I invite you to meet me here… i’ll wait for you.
I met Gwen about seven years ago. I was introduced to her as part of a mom’s playgroup I was invited to be part of after the birth of my second. The rescue was providential because it was right around the same time I was planning to lose my mind. I was the bleary eyed, t-shirt stained, shell of a woman sitting in the corner wondering what happened to my life and she was the hostess of the group … super put together, smiling, and seemingly unfazed. I seem to remember that she was discussing an entrepreneurial venture with some of the women in the room. I’m pretty sure she was also offering me a plate of homemade hor d’oeuvres.
Years later when I had my retail store we showcased Gwens tremendously successful line of artistic and funky T-shirts and apparel for women and children called “Simply Chickie.” Little did I know then – that the shining, resilient, and creative spirit we captured in these photographs is a testament to her commitment to seeing the world through a positive lens. It’s so easy to judge a book by it’s cover – and yet -can be so deceiving. Gwen is one strong chick who has faced seemingly unscalable mountains… her main concern in making the climb is the most appropriate footwear – skates?, white go go boots?, hiking boots? I love you Gwen- you are awesome. Thank you for not being afraid to be who you are and to show all of us what it looks like to “skate” through life with a smile on your face and a song in your heart- no matter what the weather man is predicting.
TRP: Would you tell us a little bit about yourself?
GWEN: I’ve lived my life backwards with the idea that you can still smell the roses if you are running with them in your hands. An acquaintance once said, “I’m going to work really hard and retire early at 40, so that I can spend the rest of my life traveling and experiencing everything.” I remember thinking—That plan won’t work for me. There is another way. I didn’t have any money to travel, but I could earn some to get to other locations and then work in those locations. So, I worked three jobs to earn enough money to get on my first plane flight the summer before my junior year in college—to Tokyo—and I kept going…
My goal has always been to value and pay attention the best I can to people and events everywhere. In that quest, I’ve scaled Mt. Fuji to view the sunrise at 4:00 a.m.; been to the mountains of Otavalo; crossed the equator on a sailboat with five other crew members on the way to Nuku Hiva and Rangiroa—basking in that big darkness with the dolphins and whales; skied a lot; strolled the streets of Managua, Panama City, Bogota, Lima, Guayaquil, Quito, and Caracas among many other cities around the world and experienced the kindness of amazing people over fabulous feasts. I did attend a women’s college, so jumping in head first, confidently, just became part of my fabric.
Now, I own Simply Chickie, an organic clothing company that focuses on clothing that tickles the funny bone for babies, children, and women since 2004. I am also co-owner of Great Place to Learn, a comprehensive tutoring agency that has been in existence since 1990.
Since the age of twelve, I’ve been an ice-skater.
At 48, I’m a single mother of a sassy, smart seven-year-old—she is the frosting in my life, and I appreciate her everyday. I know the big world that is out there for her—and I will show her with me—or let her find her own way in her own time.
TRP: What are the biggest challenge’s that have faced you as a woman?
Gwen: Being a mother dealing with creating balanced time and space for my daughter, my two businesses, and myself.
TRP: What are some of the issues that you think are important to explore as it relates to being female?
Gwen: I’d refer to the above answer.
TRP: What frightens you?
Gwen: The loss of my daughter.
TRP: What is your “Life Mission?”
Gwen: I am a catcher in the rye. I save children before they fall off a cliff in the educational sense… I help them get their footing, and give them the tools to climb with the team.
TRP: How do you keep yourself inspired in life?
Gwen: Music, family, and friends. Every time I turn around there is an awesome song that I haven’t discovered. Or, a friend will call or text. Or, I find a new way to eat or exercise. Or, an ice skating competition. My mother always said:
“you must be interested to be interesting.”
I’ve followed that path my whole life.
TRP: Have you ever hit “Rock Bottom?” Can you tell us about it?
Gwen: Of course, we all learn through pain, and there have been several “rock bottoms” in my life.Divorce. My nearly fatal car accident. The sudden death of my dear friend of nineteen years in 2001. The death of my father. And, there was a hot week in late August 2004…on Wednesday, I was told I was pregnant—on Thursday that I had cancer.
So, I called my mother who called my sister. We all sat on the couch, but I don’t remember any conversation.
What did it teach you? That falling and failing just happens—that I can pick myself up, dust myself off, and try again—create my body again, just try another endeavor, any endeavor again.
TRP: Is there anything in particular that made you feel like being part of the Revelation Project was a good idea right now?
Gwen: My daughter and I had just played Wii fitness, and the screen flashed 69 years old for me, because, apparently, according to the computer guru I cannot hit a golf ball or baseball well. She flopped on the floor, raised her arms as if she were going to do the back stroke, and asked, “Mommy, will you look like you do now at 69?” I said, “No.” She shook her head and asked, “Really? Will you be using a cane?” “Well, I hope not,” I said. She pouted. “I want you to look just like you do now!”
I said, “That’s not possible. That’s life.”
I did think at that moment, though, I could take a picture of what I look like now, so I called Monica. Additionally, I wanted my daughter to know what happiness looks like; I’m happy now.
About the shoot:
TRP: What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot (before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?
Gwen: I was excited because I rarely take pictures of myself. I rarely take pictures of anything and anyone. Period. I didn’t really have expectations that I can put my finger on—I live presently—so I take things as they come.
TRP: How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process?
Gwen: I really liked having Monica put make-up on—it took me back to my teen years in the bathroom with my cousin—re-creating Farrah hair and the “natural” make-up look. I thought the go-go boot part was super fun—because I just love those white boots, but I have to say—when I wear my love shirt, I feel love and receive love. And, that is exactly what happened with all the wonderful women circling me all morning.
TRP: Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot?
Gwen: Excited..like a model after the make-up was on…that’s nine words, forgive me.
TRP: Three words for after:
Gwen: Grateful, full, and very tired.
TRP: Three words for when you saw the results:
Gwen: surprised, young, and grateful.
TRP: After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience? What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?
Gwen: I thought –that was really fun—I got to know three really wonderful people just a little bit more. I was also thinking practically—I said to myself—well, that takes care of having to do anything to my hair and make-up for an event I planned to attend that evening. And, most everyone I ran into during the day did a double take. My daughter’s teacher said, “Oh my, you look amazing.” I laughed. She then said, “Oh, I mean, you look great anyway, but…” I laughed again. “I have make-up on,” I said. She nodded and smiled.
TRP: When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?
Gwen: I thought they were fun, and I felt they were an honest representation of me in a variety of manifestations—serious, soft, and playful.
TRP: Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?
Gwen: Everyone thought they were great and felt that they represented me—my spirit.
TRP: What are some words you would use to describe how those comments made you feel?
Gwen: Happy because I do want others to feel joy around me. I hope I give off the spirit of joy and playfulness, and I felt the pictures represented that inner me.
TRP: Did you learn anything new about yourself from the experience?
Gwen: Yeah, that I should put make-up on more often!
TRP : Did you feel empowered?
Gwen: I did think more about female power; and, in fact, began ruminating around adding a women’s line to Simply Chickie. It debuted in New York at the Green Festival: “That Girl,” “Nauti-Girl,” and “Ruffle Some Feathers,” are among my favorites. And, in regards to the students I had/have at Great Place to Learn, I found myself saying to them more often, “Trust Yourself.”
TRP: Since the shoot happened a few months ago can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience? Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?
Gwen: I feel that it reminds me of the power of remaining joyful and the importance of surrounding myself with the men, women, and children that I enjoy having in my life. Because that smile on my face in those pictures is me thinking of laughing with so many friends and family members.
TRP: Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? Why?
Gwen: Yes, for the reasons that I listed just above.
TRP: Do you think it’s relevant for other women? Why?
Gwen: Yes, because we can be so serious taking care of all that matters in life, but we should take time out to laugh and connect. It’s a reminder–a metaphor–It’s as important to lace up my skates and/or dance a few times a week with my friend(s) as it is to write a report on time.
TRP: How would you use the photos moving forward? Professionally? Personally? As gifts?
Gwen: Both/all but I haven’t figured that out quite yet.
TRP: What is your favorite song and why?
Dave Matthews, You and Me. You ask why? …Just is…I’ll let the song speak for itself.
TRP: Why do you think this project is important?
Gwen: Because… real displays of emotion are indicative of real worth and consequence. It’s important to be visible…I’m not invisible here. These pictures show a story of one woman. And, everyone has a story that is integral to the culture.
TRP: If you could sum up the experience what would you say?
Gwen: It was as fun as Latin dancing.
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Itinerary:
THURSDAY
Meet your apology personality type at the “Sorry, NO MORE!” Show. an interactive one woman show with Andrea WIllets. Is she Polly People Pleaser, Sadie SPANX, Life Boat Lucy, Controlicious, or maybe you will relate to more than one.
It’s time to wake up your Wild Woman. She lives at the core of our being, and holds the wisdom of self worth, fierce love, courage and vulnerability. Vulnerability is the most exquisite part of the human condition. This raw, soul-filled place of self expression, feeds the capacity for deeper connection (intimacy) in ourselves and our relationships. WILD WOMAN lives with full permission. She does not need to edit anything about her SELF and celebrates the whole! This part of us knows when an apology is needed and when it is not!
We laugh and cry, stories are shared, and suddenly we are not alone, we are a sisterhood that helps each other to stop over apologizing.
FRIDAY
Thank you to Be Anything but Quiet for this great post yesterday.
Although it made me laugh I also read through the 10 tips to prevent sexual assault and found it so provocative because:
1) Isn’t it amazing how we place the responsibility on women to protect themselves – to the point where WE have to be careful everywhere we go so that we don’t get hurt or taken advantage of sexually?
2) It totally made me look at all the ways in which the safety of women is compromised – it kind of made me throw up in my mouth a little. It’s appalling.
3) It made me angry. I’m angry that women are taken advantage of on so many levels, and have to get extra smart about protecting themselves ALL THE TIME.
Jane Kelleher was photographed for The Revelation Project on June 16th, 2011 and came to the shoot with a little extra support in the beautiful form of her friend Cathy. I usually just try to “be” with whatever “is” the morning of the shoot- trusting that whatever the weather, the emotions, the need, or people who attend- all will be “revealed” and BE as it should be. This morning was no different. I wanted to make sure Jane got the full experience – and somehow Cathy was a part of that for her – which made it just perfect for all involved. Photographing Jane was like watching a classic, brilliant, beautiful, black & white film… the light that day just seemed to pop into each and every aspect of the shoot making many of the photographs feel timeless and radiantly beautiful. If eyes are the windows to the soul… then just look into Janes. Her’s are deep pools of wisdom and reflective happy light- light of a woman who has finally found the path to her own heart and is at home. Amazing work Jane. Keep inspiring us…
PS: Jane included her own choice of quotes which you will read along the way…
TRP: Would you tell us a little bit about yourself?
”I would love to live like a river flows.
Carried by the surprise of its own unfolding.” ~John O’Donohue
Jane: I was born in Ireland, spent some early childhood years in New York, and then lived in a few different countries (Kenya, Ireland and England) before coming to settle in Rhode Island 16 years ago. I have two amazing children who are the absolute BEST things I have ever done in my life! Daniel, 22, is at college in Amsterdam, and Niamh, 19 is at college in North Carolina. I am officially an empty-nester, apart from my adorable little schnoodle Millie.
Life has taken many twists and turns along the way. But with that ever-elusive hindsight, I can now see there is a reason for every single thing that happens, even if in the moment itself, a reason seems impossible to find.
We moved to Rhode Island In 1996 for my husband to follow his dream and open an Irish Restaurant. Sadly, it was one of those businesses that just did not make it, and it finally closed after a long and agonizing 2 year death spiral. We lost everything – all of our money, and much of our hopes and dreams – and we had to start over again from scratch. It was a very difficult and painful time, for everyone, particularly my husband.. Much as we tried, things would never be the same again.
After a little while, my career as a computer consultant started to take flight and I worked extremely hard to get us back on a stable financial footing. I became the main family breadwinner. Finances started to improve, but my marriage was foundering. . I was 3000 miles away from most of my family and friends. I do have one wonderful sister in this country (in Massachusetts) but as I hunkered down in the safety of my turtle shell, I subconsciously withdrew from her as well. There were many times I felt very much alone. I lost my faith in God and in others.
I felt utterly responsible, and sometimes hopelessly incapable.
I was a mother, a wife, a worker, a daughter, a homemaker, housekeeper and friend. I was a juggler with 20 balls in the air and I was determined to show everyone I could do it, and with style! From the outside, it looked like I had it all, and that I was, in fact a master juggler (oh my!). But inside, I was slowly dying. I did not dare to stop and look inside; to try and connect with ‘Jane’ again as she slowly and quietly disappeared. I just forged blindly on, hoping things would improve. Not knowing that I was the only one that could make that happen.
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein
I knew, as a Mom, that my main purpose was to give my children roots and wings. And this I did, and did well. My children grew up – beautiful and confident and strong – and started to head off on their own life journeys. But for me, years of stress and self-imposed isolation began to take their toll. Both my parents passed away (in Ireland) after long and terribly debilitating illnesses. I felt terribly alone and lost. There was a moment nearly 3 years ago, when I suddenly realized that nothing was going to change, unless I did something different! And so I did. I asked for help. And that began my journey of self discovery. I experienced a gradual awakening of my spiritual connection to a higher power. I stopped imagining that I was in control of the universe (because, after all, I was doing a pretty lousy job!). I started to just let go of my regrets about the past, and my overwhelming worries about the future, and just live in the moment. One of my favorite paradoxes is that the moment I admitted that there were things I was powerless over, I became empowered.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” ~ Anaïs Nin
And so I started to do the inner work. I have learnt so much about myself – my defects as well as my strengths.. But even more than that, I have re-discovered my inner strength, my love of life, and my faith.
I am now surrounded by friends who actually know me, and love me anyway. I feel like I have slowly learned to BREATHE again. I have also started to live my life rather than run away from it. This discovery process made me finally recognize the need to do something about the deeply unhappy marriage I had been living in for many years. In February of this year, I finally found the courage to stand up and say that our marriage was sadly over. The divorce process was painful and slow, and much worse than I expected – breathtakingly sad, exciting, frightening, and often shocking. I lived in a heightened reality, with hyper-exposed nerves and emotions abounding. But underneath it all, I actually felt more hope for the future than I had in a very long time. And I knew, in my heart, that although this was going to cause some pain to others (my husband, my children) and to myself, it was the right thing to do. The only thing to do. The divorce was finalized on December 29th.
At the beginning of 2011, as I started this phase of my journey, I bought myself a little angel that I hang on my dashboard as a daily reminder. She says “You are Loved”. And today, I know I am. Because I have learned to love myself again, and that is a really good start!
I began the year in fear. Fear of confrontation. Fear of the unknown. Fear of taking charge of my life, and the inevitable consequences. I ended the year so very gratefully, in faith. Faith that everything happens for a reason, and that I am no longer alone.
TRP: What is the biggest challenge that’s ever faced you as a woman?
Jane: I have had many challenges in my life, all of which are easier to see as opportunities for growth from a distance.
At the risk of sounding selfish, one of the biggest challenges I faced was during this past year, in finally having the courage to take charge of my own life. I think as women, we are conditioned to be caretakers and people pleasers. One thing I have learned is that it is deeply dishonest to not be true to yourself and live to your fullest potential. There are moments in life where you just have to put yourself first, even if it seems against your very nature.
In a year full of milestones, I also turned 50 in May of this year, and threw myself a ‘surprise’ birthday party that I only-a-little-bit-jokingly dubbed “Fifty and Freaking Fabulous”. Instead of fearing being 50, I was honestly ready to embrace it and it turned out to be the very best birthday. Friends, love, laughter, and dancing. Oh, and chocolate. Does it get any better than that?
TRP: What are some of the issues that you think are important to explore as it relates to our gender?
I feel that we all struggle with an unrealistic ideal of ‘Perfection’, in all aspects of our lives. From Motherhood, to beauty and body image…..we are our own worst critics. Our self-esteem takes a battering when we are constantly subjected to what the advertising world considers to be beautiful.
I know that for me, when I feel good about myself on the inside, it starts to manifest on the outside too. I am far from ‘perfect’, but today I aim for progress, not perfection!
TRP: What’s your idea of a great “girls night?”
Good friends, dancing, fun and a whole lot of belly laughter. And this happens on a regular basis, because today I go out there and make it happen! I have amazing girlfriends in my life today that enrich it in every way possible.
TRP: Is there anything in particular that made you feel like being part of The Revelation Project was a good idea right now?
Jane: A friend told me about it, and I was immediately intrigued by the concept. I was already in the process of moving forward and establishing my new life. It did not seem a coincidence that this fell into my path at that exact moment. Serendipity, perhaps?
I was a bit hesitant at the idea of being in front of a camera and feeling rather ‘exposed’. However, I decided to grasp the opportunity that presented itself. It seemed like it was just meant to be, and so I let it!
About the shoot:
TRP: What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot (before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?
Jane: I used to be a perfectionist. The first revelation I had in this whole process was that this particular character trait (defect?) had begun to disappear! I was pretty surprised the morning of the shoot to realize that I had NOT behaved in my usual manner. I did not panic because I really had a few (?) extra pounds to lose. I did not care that I had not had my hair done in a while, that my ‘all-natural’ color was in urgent need of a root boost, and my week old manicure was looking a bit shabby. I had not even thought about what I wanted to wear for the photoshoot, or even pulled out clothes to make sure they fit and/or were clean! This might sound as though I did not actually care about the forthcoming photoshoot. But the truth was that I was simply LIVING my life. I was so busy with work and friends and divorce and therapy and a whole pile of inner-self-improvement projects.
My very stylish friend Cathy helped me pull together a bag of clothes. I gathered up some jewelry, and shoes, added a last minute selection of a couple of hats, and we headed south towards Wakefield on a beautiful early summer’s day. In my beautiful convertible. Top down, smile ON.
TRP: How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process?
Everything about the shoot was perfect. Truly. From the moment I arrived, I felt very comfortable with both Monica and Robyn. I had invited Cathy to come along with me. The running joke of that day was that she was my personal stylist, but in reality, she was my support, my cheerleader. I was so glad she was there, and that I got to share the whole experience with her – before, during, and after.
TRP: Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot?
Jane: Excited, enthusiastic, READY.
TRP: Three words for after?
Beautiful, empowered, ALIVE
TRP: Three words for when you saw the results?
WHO
IS
THAT?
(Or …….Astonished, Emotional, Grateful)
TRP: After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience? What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?
Jane: We drove home via Narragansett, stopping to enjoy the sunshine and the gorgeous day. I was surprised at how relaxed I had been during the photo shoot. How easily I was able to smile, and frolic and flirt and laugh and dance with two women who had been total strangers until 3 hours previously. How fun and freeing it had all felt.
I felt liberated, and beautiful in a way I had not felt in a very, very long time.
TRP: When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?
Jane: I was truly moved, and found myself shedding a few tears. I looked at the pictures, and was overwhelmed with love and compassion for that girl, that woman, for myself!
I was also amazed at the artistry behind each picture, and how wonderfully the photographer had captured my spirit. I could see the real Jane in each shot.
TRP: Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?
I had such positive feedback and I was really moved, especially by the people who really understood the purpose of the photoshoot. I was afraid there would be some people who would view it as simply a vanity project, but the people who really know and understand me knew what it meant to me, and I was really grateful for that.
TRP: What are some words you would use to describe how you were feeling throughout the shoot?
At the beginning of the shoot I was a little bit nervous and tense. I usually (used to?) hate having my photo taken. I had spent years not really feeling good about myself, and did not like it being documented by camera! But the girls soon made me relax. I enjoyed the opening ceremonies; the sage burning and the setting of intentions! Then we got down to the girly stuff, and Monica performed some incredible magic with makeup and hair styling. We huddled over the dressing options, and made some decisions. Once I stood in front of the camera, I somehow suddenly felt transformed. And it truly was all due to Monica and Robyn. They made me feel relaxed, and I just enjoyed it and began to throw myself into the whole process. I smiled and laughed, and flirted and danced.
And then I put the big black hat on…….. Oh my, I had so much fun with that hat!
Robyn stopped at one stage to share an image of me on her camera with Monica. They both seemed to like it. Very much. Of course, being nosy, I asked to see it too. And, to be honest, I felt as if my breath were taken away. I saw the image and my train of thought went something like: “Is that really me? But, she is Beautiful! Oh my God. Is that really me? Really? Wow.”.
When the shoot was over and all my bits and pieces were packed up in the car, and I said my final goodbyes, I realized how utterly exhausted I was. It was as if I had emptied myself out on the floor of the photo shoot. Emotionally and physically.
TRP: Did you learn anything new about yourself from the experience?
I learned that I can allow myself to be seen. For who I am. Without pretence or fear.
TRP: Did you feel empowered? Why? Why not?
Jane: This whole year has been about self-empowerment! The Revelation Project was the fabulous icing on the cake. I could actually dare to be beautiful. To be confident. To be me.
TRP: Since the shoot happened -can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience? Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?
Jane: My immediate answer to the question as to changing how I viewed myself was going to be ‘No, not that I can pinpoint ’, but after further reflection, I realize that it has most definitely altered the way I view myself, on a very subconscious level. The way I picture myself in my head is literally defined by these pictures….i.e. when I think about myself, I mentally pull up one of the many images from the photo shoot. And since I feel good about each one of those images, I am drawing on a positive feeling about myself. It is the gift that keeps on giving!
TRP: Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? Why?
Jane: Without doubt, this was a very positive experience. It boosted my self-esteem and confidence, and helped me to see myself through other people’s eyes and not through those of my harshest critic – myself!
TRP: Do you think it’s relevant for other women? Why?
Jane: I think the Revelation Project is a wonderful experience for anyone that actually wants to be revealed. We all have images in our minds about how we appear to the outside world that are sometimes not really consistent with how other people see us. I think everyone should do this, but only when they are ready. And by that I do not mean wait until you lose that last 5 pounds, or your bangs grows back …..I mean do it when you are emotionally ready. And I know that for me, this is the year that I was ready.
TRP: How would you use the photos moving forward? Professionally? Personally? As gifts?
Jane: I really only want to keep them for my own personal use.
I am a computer professional, and I am pretty darn sure none of those pictures showcase the computer nerd in me, nor would they look remotely suitable on my business card!
TRP: What is your favorite song and why?
* “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”, by Eva Cassidy. I have loved this song since childhood. I adore this particular version. Her soaring vocals and powerfully raw emotions move me every single time I hear it.
* and “Some Enchanted Evening ” because my Father always used to sing it to my mother….and I guess I am a diehard romantic!
TRP: If you could sum up the experience what would you say?
Jane: It was the best gift I could give myself this year! Thank you to Monica and Robyn for making it possible.
TRP: If someone were on the fence about doing it is there anything you would tell them about the experience or say to encourage them?
Jane: Get off the fence!!! If you are thinking about it, and if you can do it, then just do it!!
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~Mark Twain
Thank you Jane. XO (& Thank you Cath. XO for being there- we all need a Cath)
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I am proud to welcome Kim Fuller Photography to The Revelation Project.
I met Kim in 2001 when I hired her initially to shoot my wedding day. I loved her style and her personality so much I then hired her to do all of my commercial business work when I had my children’s company. I have always had a deep respect for her both personally and professionally and I am honored to have her aboard.
Kim is a natural fit for the project because of her deep insight, authentic and honest approach, and incredible talent. Please join me me in welcoming her….
TRP: What have you been up to personally and professionally in the last few years?
Kim: I have been a freelance photographer for over 25 years. I have been blessed with clients who are part of a family, running a business, designing publications for schools or getting married and having babies. I also have been studying meditation and Buddhism for six years and have applied my studies leading workshops on peaceful living. That business is called Wabi Sabi Way and was co-founded with Rachel Balaban. I have raised three great children, the last of whom has only been with us for 3 years. He was adopted at the age of 7.
TRP: What made you want to be a part of TRP?
Kim: When I first saw what was happening with TRP I thought it was so beautiful and inspiring. I have led workshops that address how we as women feel being photographed, how we feel about aging, beauty and being focused on so TRP was very much inline with that to me. The workshops I had done were so powerful and insightful for the women that I knew TRP would have a similar effect on the women. Photography is a wonderful tool to address these issues and along with the questions and blogging that follow in TRP it adds a wonderful layer to the work.
TRP: What do you think is most exciting about shooting for the project?
Kim: What is exciting is that I will be able to do more of what I love and I am sure have revelations of my own along the way. I am sure I will meet some very smart, brave and insightful women who will inspire my creativity and own self- exploration.
TRP; What is your favorite music/song?
Kim: I love the Beetles song “Imagine.” It is what I dream of. I love Michael Jackson, Erykah Badu, John Legend, India Arie, Cilo Green, Led Zeppelin and even some pop artist like Lady GaGa, Maroon 5 and the Black Eyed Peas. I like anything I can dance to.
TRP: How would you describe your photography?
Kim: My photography style is very editorial. I have always tried to help my subject be a part of the art by feeling at ease and letting their natural selves come through in the images. I feel like the process is about connecting with my subjects in a way that is calming yet exciting and working together to create something great in the pictures.
TRP: Tell us three things about you that you feel we should know- or three things that not many people know about you!
Kim: 
I love the truth
I love my family
I love nature
IF I can add a forth it would be that I love to dance at any given moment. Lots of people know that about me though. Especially if we have been at the same party!
Can you believe it’s 2012? How did that happen? It’s amazing what you can accomplish in a year if you set your mind to it. So many of you accomplished so very much including signing yourself on to be photographed for The Revelation Project.
But, something moved you, & told you “it’s time”, and we watched as many of you walked through the door without much of an idea about what it was you actually signed yourselves up for, but you did it anyway!
Thank you to each and every one of you who took a stand for yourself in 2011 and allowed yourself to be seen. Thank you for letting us assist you in your transformation as you surrendered to the process sharing your vulnerable moments, your hopes, dreams, photos, and then your courageous interviews. You’ve allowed our readers to step inside your shoes and see ourselves through your own experience and given us a glimpse into your minds and hearts. Weather you are a mother, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker – you’ve inspired us, made us laugh, cry, and most importantly made us think and feel- differently.
By taking part in the project, you’ve made a difference in the lives of thousands of women (and men) & if you saw the blog and facebook stats you’d know what I mean. With over 600,000 page views and double that who’ve seen and touched the project through your own social networks you’ve been able to give others an opportunity to have their own revelations and share themselves more authentically, enthusiastically, and unabashedly with those around them.
Louise & Maureen – You have been an inspiration for hundreds of women all over the nation with your blogs, your radio interview, your magazine expose, and your women’s networking organization. Keep up the amazing work.
Bethany & Sarah R.- Think of all the mom’s you’ve inspired by taking the time for yourself and giving yourself permission to have your own time to nurture yourselves as you nurture your family. You are beautiful inside and out- truly.
Rachel, Sarah, Gwen, Sarah M & Meg- All the women you’ve inspired to keep growing their career life right along side raising a family. You are simply. amazing.
Nancy Maney- All the beautiful women over age 60 who think they are “too old” to be sexy, beautiful, and vibrant- you have so much wisdom and so much beauty to share with all of us and we love you. Keep shining.
Jane, MJ, Medalise- all of the women you’ve inspired to keep believing in themselves when times get tough and the many women you’ve touched who are going through difficult times. Your strength is unbelievable.
Denise, Katie, Wendy, Sandy & Jessica – Your adventurous spirit, kind nature, and entrepreneurial energy is contagious. Thank you so much for being part of our lives and for daring to step out of your comfort zone.
Tami, Laurie and Meredith A. – Your love for people, animals, children, bee’s ;) and all things – especially laughter, inspire us to be better people. You are both so authentic and true to yourselves. Thank you for that.
Juli M, Gloria, Cyra- You are wildly artistic and talented. Keep sharing your amazing voices and creative energy with the world- don’t forget about us little ladies when you make the big times.
Thanks again for an awesome year.
We love you.
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Sarah Roche approached me with a big smile on her face but I could tell she was apprehensive and she seemed like she wasn’t quite sure what to do without a baby in her arms or a child clinging to her pants leg. When we started to do hair and makeup she giggled telling me she could not remember the last time she had her hair out of the standard knotted bun in the back of her head or worn makeup.
I told her she reminded me of the famous Bottecelli “Birth of Venus” image, or a regal princess from the time of King Arthur (sometimes I get carried away but I’m serious on this one) and so… at one point we even photographed her laying with seashells, and If we’d had a crown on hand we would have used it. In any case- without the knot, the baby, and the kiddie boogers, she cleans up pretty well ;)
TRP: Would you tell us a little bit about yourself?
Sarah: I’m Sarah, My husband and I have two awesome little girls that pretty much take up all of my time right now…so thats what I’ve been up to for the past five years. I love good music, and good food and spending time with close family and friends.
TRP: What is the biggest challenge that’s ever faced you as a woman?
Sarah: Becoming a mother. I have two amazing daughters, a five year old and a two year old who both really know how to challenge me and both really know how to make me laugh!
TRP: What are some of the issues that you think are important to explore as it relates to being female?
Sarah: There are so many… but in relation to this I think in general we need to be more supportive and less critical of one another. It’s amazing what women can do when they feel they have the support of their sisters, girl friends, and mothers- we all have our struggles that we are dealing with, whether or not it is apparent on the outside. Sometimes those of us who seem to have it the most ‘together” really don’t, and having the support of other women in your life can make all the difference.
TRP: What’s your idea of a great “girls night?”
Sarah: Wine and desert with some close friends.
TRP: Is there anything in particular that made you feel like being part of The Revelation Project was a good idea right now?
Sarah: Yes. A close friend of mine took part in The Revelation Project and my husband and I were looking through her beautiful pictures. I was admiring her pics and my husband turns to me and says “You should do this” …I didn’t agree. It did get me thinking though, about how I see myself, about how I thought others percieved me, about how since becoming a parent it just didn’t feel ok to have the focus be on me – at all, about how I felt that my friend was so worthy of this photo shoot but not me…and about how no one had made me feel this way except me. My thirty second birthday was coming up and my husband and parents offered to “treat” me to this, if it was what I really wanted. I realized that it was.
About the shoot:
TRP: What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot (before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?
Sarah: I almost cancelled the night before. For two reasons, one being that I hadn’t been getting any sleep lately and felt that no amount of makeup and fancy photo lenses would be able to wipe away the exhausted look to me…seriously I don’t think I’ve had a full nights sleep in five years… (and did I really want to chronicle that forever in photos that would be posted for all to see?) The other reason was that I felt like I shouldn’t do it. Basically I felt like “who am I to do this?” I didn’t want to be seen as narcissistic and I felt like I didn’t “deserve” to get these done.. I hadn’t reached a significant age, milestone,or attained some life changing goal. When I told this to my husband he asked me if I felt like the other women who had done The Revelation Project were narcissistic. No, I didn’t . He pointed out that I spent most of my time taking care of everybody else and reminded me that I was important too, and that that was part of the reason that I had decided to do this thing in the first place. He had a good point. Why did I need a major life changing reason, why not just do it for myself, because I’m important too and you know what, it might be really fun! I don’t think I knew quite what to expect as an outcome, I was just hopeful that Monica and Robyn could make me look rested, at least somewhat.
TRP: How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process?
Sarah: I was a little nervous but Monica and Robyn have this chemistry that is just amazing. They are absolutley hysterical to watch together, which made me feel relaxed and let down my guard. It was a lot of fun and not like anything I had ever done before!
TRP: Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot?
Sarah: Anxious, excited, hopeful
TRP: Three words for after?
Sarah: Energized, happy, hopeful
TRP: Three words for when you saw the results?
Sarah: Amazed, bashful, relieved
TRP: After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience? What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?
Sarah: What an awesome experience! At this point I wasn’t even thinking about the photos, just that I had had such a fun time and felt, well, very…pretty. The actual taking of the photos was really a good portion of this experience for me- I felt more confident after I left, but then again how could i not after those two primping, “zhooshing”, and telling me how beautiful I looked… not to mention spending a few hours hanging out with two hysterially funny, real, awesome women. Whether youre a mother or not, I feel like in general women spend a lot of their time taking care of those around us, and when all the attention is on you it can be really rejuvinating.
TRP: When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?
Sarah: I was amazed. I looked so confident, and I felt like it was a side of myself I havent seen in some time.
TRP: Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?
Sarah: Seeing my husbands reaction to the photos was wonderful…he loved them. But something I didn’t take into account was how good it would feel to get such positive feedback from other women…I feel like most women (and I am just as much to blame) can all be so critical, of ourselves, and of other women. We are our worst critics. Thats part of what I loved about doing this project, I feel like I have joined this community of women who are encouraging and supportive of each other. Each time I see another women’s new photos posted, I feel like saying “you rock! Good for you for taking the chance to feel beautiful!”
TRP: What are some words you would use to describe how you were feeling throughout the shoot?
Sarah: Giddy, silly, shy, and beautiful
TRP: Did you learn anything new about yourself from the experience?
Sarah: I’m starting to appreciate things in myself that when I was younger I used to see as flaws.
TRP: Did you feel empowered? Why? Why not?
Sarah: Yes, in the sense that I was doing something just for me, and learning that that was ok.
TRP: Since the shoot happened -can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience? Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?
Sarah: I have felt more confident…I certainly do not look like the woman in those photos on a day to day basis, but I am reminded that that side of me is there…
TRP: Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? Why? Sarah: Yes, because I saw myself in a light that I have not seen in a long time, and I love being connected with all these other supportive women involved in the Revelation Project.
TRP: Do you think it’s relevant for other women? Why?
Sarah: Yes, I really feel that confidence is about how YOU FEEL about yourself, not how you look, but I also feel that if you can step away from yourself for a moment and litterally see yourself in a different light that you can gain confidence in seeing this side of yourself. Whether it be the firecenes in your eyes, the confidence in your pose (that you had forgotten you had) or just seeing yourself without baby spitup and boogers wiped across your shirt (ahem) it can change your own perspective of yourself which can then in turn change the way you are viewing yourself in the world… I think that the participating in The Revelation Project can help you do that.
TRP: How would you use the photos moving forward? professionally? personally? as gifts?
Sarah: You know, I’m not sure yet. I think that this was more about the experience for me, and seeing the results. Viewing myself outside of my “Mama” mode.
TRP: What is your favorite song and why?
Sarah: Home by Edward Sharpe and The Magnetic Zeros, the up beat music and because its how I feel about my husband and my girls. (Its also my oldest daughters favorite song too)
TRP: If you could sum up the experience what would you say?
Sarah: I got my pictures done, but it was more than that, it was an uplifting, just- for- me- girl- time that was really good for my soul…and now I’m connected to this awesome group of supportive women who were willing to take the risk and do something to make themselves feel confident and beautiful. I feel we all really need this on some level, some more than others. I have a few friends who I really wish would do this.
TRP: If someone were on the fence about doing it is there anything you would tell them about the experience or say to encourage them?
This :
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond all measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not… serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others do not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson
And this:
”my wish, my hope for women everywhere is that they remember who they truly are & why they’ve come into this world & that they never again apologize for being too much or too loud or too big or too anything ~ that instead they choose to live as potently & powerfully & abundantly & as sexually as what moves their own soul & that they …empower themselves & learn from their own journey both the light & the dark; that they never, ever again diminish or devalue another woman on this path. the more women can shine, the more space there is for light, so if we see a woman on the path that is just stunning & beautiful & brilliant & wise, let’s celebrate her even when we don’t feel that ourselves
let’s celebrate her & stand for her & let her rip through the ceiling of disconnection so that she can help create space for us when we’re ready to burst through, as well. my wish is that all of us learn to truly love all aspects of our being, both the parts of us that are joyful & brilliant & funny, but also, the parts of us that are scared & insecure & doubtful & ashamed & allow for those delicate & tender parts of our own nature to become excavated & loved so that we could heal it because if we can heal it in our own heart then we can love it in each other’s heart & that is really when this world will change & i believe as women, we can.
we’re the creators, the poets, the priestesses, we’re the lovers, we’re the mothers & I believe that when we touch that power that’s within ourselves then the way that we raise our families & the way that we communicate & create will reflect that light & that light is abundant & my hope is that me & you & your children & all the children & all the women out there can remember this when they are feeling disconnected & instead, say “yes” to the beauty that is within & let that beauty motivate every word & every choice”
-Seane Corn (posted on the Revelation Projects FB page by Terry Lee Cafferty)
