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In Her Glory; The Magnificence of Karen Carey

You never know who you are going to meet, or how.

Karen and her beautiful family

Karen and her beautiful family

This poem was written by a friend of mine who is a photographer in Pennsylvania.  She became my friend through an introduction made by one of my favorite people and when we had our very first call, I learned that we were similar in many ways. Then she made me laugh, and well- that’s all it took.

She’s one of those rare souls who can actually “produce” what she says she wants to… in record time. This always leaves me feeling a little bit like a tool, and a slacker.  *Sigh, then I have to remember that I’m not in a competition and yada yada yada….

Any who – she is also doing a project for women,  and she’s calling it “In her Glory.”

I should mention however, that this is just one of the many projects she has her hands on. Check her out in her studio makeover reality program ( huh? – yeah exactly) which I’m sure she will take prime time-  here.

You can also sign up for her blog posts at YO BIG MAMA’s guide to living a BIG ASS LIFE. 

In her spare time (ha!)  she is a photographer, and a consultant to other photographers,  offering a thriving workshop series called, THRIVE. 

About this time last year, I was honored to help her,  and we some spent time by phone (we’ve never personally met) mapping out a few things she wanted to learn, specifically:

  • How to grow her social media audience around her already wildly successful brand.
  • How to create a content engine (blog) to introduce her writing voice inside of an idea she’d been percolating on a while.
  • Understand why growing a social media audience is critical to business marketing.

Talking with her is a wild ride, because she’s a whirling dervish of energy and ideas, and she’s raw, and edgy and full of life, and deep. I helped her where ever i could, but she’s one of those rare souls who need just a little push in the right direction and then BAM! She’s off and running.

She’s gutsy, determined, and talented, and I know she will travel to amazing places.

I wanted to share this with you because I think it’s so beautiful, and if you get a chance, look her up on facebook and follow her progress- I love that I’ll be able to say; I knew her when…..

Glory

Seek out praise for your worth.
Tell the world about your gift.
Don’t be afraid that your gift will not be welcomed.
It will be embraced!
It will be appreciated!
It will be seen! For all of it’s splendor.
It is His splendor and the world seeks to see Him.
The world basks in His glory!
Honor Him by honoring yourself!

He gave me this gift and asked me to share it.
I have for so long acted as if it was not glorious.
I have for so long pretended it was not valuable.
I have for so long not acknowledged it’s beauty…
All the while, unintentionally putting out the light
That He intended to shine.

In the darkness I have struggled to find the way and beauty of my life.
Seeking out the light of others, looking to find a light of my own.

All the while the light flickered in my accomplishments.
Remaining lit even in my attempts to put it out.

Today I have rekindled the flame.
I have torched my soul and it glows brightly for all the world to see.
My gifts are glowing. I want to light up the world with them.
I want to honor my God by emerging as the brightest star.

I will shine in His name.
I will shine for others to see.
I will shine in order to light my own path.
I will come out of the darkness and into the spotlight.

Where I have belonged all along.     ~ Karen Carey

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Revelation: Provocative No Matter WHAT….

Photograph taken by one of us ... just not her.

Images are incredibly powerful- especially to us women.  Lets face it- we are the image makers and the memory keepers of our families; our lives.   We lovingly attend to our members, partners, spouses, children for years capturing them endlessly at each stage of development, each celebration… till suddenly there we are clicking away at our children’s college graduation when we realize we’ve failed to include our own image in the documentary process.

“Where am I?” we might ask ourselves.

WHO am I? we might also add….

Mostly we had been hiding out behind the camera… happy to take the shots.  After all, how often are we showered, dressed, physically or emotionally prepared for our close up? UGH. It’s so very intimate for a woman! PLEASE CAMERA WOman.. BE KIND for pity’s sake!

Then here we are… we have this great opportunity … The Revelation Project can unearth the woman who’s been the rock of Gibraltar for everyone else …. has the hand of time, reality, child baring, family rearing, life been kind to us?  or should we change that question…  Let me repose: “Are we able to look at ourselves in consideration of time, reality, child baring, family rearing and be KIND to ourselves?.”  What will be revealed?  Who is that beauty? or… “UGH… OMG!!!, I can’t even TAKE it that I look that way!… WHAT HAPPENED TO Meeeee!”

Getting your photograph taken and then just “being” with the results is quite a process! Astonishing, provocative, emotional, shocking, gratifying, soothing, disturbing… each woman’s experience of being photographed and then her reaction to seeing her own images are all over the map.

The three of us who document this process for the women who come to participate in TRP decided to honor the process the other day. We all took turns shooting each other and has a FREAKING BLAST (be photographed like there is NO image captured = dance like no one is watching) the collective conversation since that time has been really quite incredible…

Our first mistake in taking our own photographs is that we peeked too soon = big mistake.
We “rushed” the high you get when you just let go and have some fun. Yeah… we kind of spoiled that part by looking at the results… (UM… hey, there’s a REVELATION!)

JUDGEMENT kicked in HARD but then some great conversation.

here are some excerpts from all of us….. you can have fun guessing who said what…..

“You know it is my never ending search to understand what it is about photos of ourselves that throws us for a loop sometimes.  We are ever changing and in every moment we have a different expression on our faces.  Its like the thing about how our emotions change every 15 seconds or so.  It is the big “picture” (no pun intended) that we have to look at.  How do we effect others by our expressions, our moods our actions that make us who we are.  I believe that everyone will take away something different than someone else too.”

“The words “allowing” & “safe space” are resonating with me today while we go forward…I’m so glad that we have that perspective going forward because I think it sets a tone and and awareness to just “be” that safe space for them…for us…to be exactly who we are.”

“Regardless of how much our families love us- they too have a “boxed in” image of who we are and when we appear outside the box it causes discomfort in them- therefore the feelings of rejection, isolation, feeling mis-understood etc.”

“For years my mom would tell me “I was not acting like myself” and it became for me her way of invalidating the parts of me she could not accept. It was deeply painful. I had a skewed vision of who I was supposed to be.. how I was supposed to look.”

“For me- I can not stand myself in images for the most part.  There are very very few I like of myself and even fewer that I love- I am fastinated by how others see me- what pictures THEY choose to like of me etc.That part is my revelation – along with starting to relate to my body a little more realistically.  I don’t want to “get thick” and so when I see the “THICK” in the pics I realize that this is something then that I want to work on- and without the photo’s I tend to have magical thinking when I look in the mirror… putting off more rigorous workouts etc and then the other aspect to that is just accepting what time does to the female body. To MY female body!

“The thing is, we all have many layers “versions”  to our personalities & that is, for me, what is so interesting. When we have the ability to capture these fragments in photographs created out of our lucid existence that is always moving and certainly….way too fast ~ it’s amazing & magical…what I continue to LOVE about photography!!”

“For me, it was more about letting go of the control and experiencing the other side of the camera in order to understand my subjects: how they feel; giving me a new creative perspective from which to work. It’s not easy for me to let go and let myself be “seen”…I’ve been very comfortable in my invisible/observatory role for many, many years.”

“Sometimes it is weird to see certain “versions” of myself in photos.  I just sent the one you edited to a friend to see and she commented that it was pretty but did not “look” like me.  We all have a self image that is known to ourselves but maybe not seen by others I guess.  This is what this project is all about.  I realized I need to have more fun like I had while we were shooting.  I almost didn’t care how the shots came out.  I just wanted to keep laughing and playing.  The past few years have been super hard and way too serious….”

Kim Fuller... Taken by one of us ;)

Kim Fuller... Taken by one of us...